What does it mean to become a parent? Responsibility. Work. Happiness. Joy. There are a lot of changes to come with becoming a parent. But the ones that people look at the most are the ones that focus on change. That focus on work, the responsibility, and the finical impact. But the truth is that they they aren’t looking at the full picture. And while they are seeing a small portion of what it means to becoming a parent. The truth is that there is much more to it than that. And the joys do out weigh the diapers, the colds, and the chicken pox; trips to training, the doctor’s office and in the rare case the principal’s office.
When you learn that you are going to be a parent there are so many things that happen and they seem to happen all at the same time. The sudden change can be almost overwhelming. And the feeling doesn’t go away until you get comfortable with the idea.
But when does that happen?
The Baby Showers
Depending on your situation you will be having a lot of different experiences with a lot of different family members and friends. Some will treat it like old hat while others will be there and sort of make you nervous about the whole thing. They will relate personal stories, they will share horror stories. Many of them will mean it well but no matter, you will just feel stressed. This huge responsibility will be landing in your arms very soon.
For me it was during the baby shower, or right around that time that I was more comfortable with the idea.
It just sort of clicked then at that time. I don’t know when the baby shower was for our little girl. Maybe about seven months into the pregnancy. Two months before I gave birth sounds about right. And while that seems like a long time before the birth of our daughter it was in fact a really fast two months. The baby shower was a nice experience that helped me stock up on bottles, diapers and a different bib for everyday of the week. It was like this surreal experience. You get to be the center of attention just because you’re pregnant. Sure it is an achievement, being given the responsibility to care for an unborn child. But it is in the same breath natural. The order of things. And because of that you tend to think that things are a little bit overboard. And I am not alone. When we were celebrating the baby shower my sister-in-law told me she also felt nervous being the center of attention. Years later I have heard this sentiment repeated again and again for various mothers in my circle.
Thankfully I was all hands off when it came to my baby shower. In fact I think that is what they are supposed to be about in the first place. But I have met some women that were expected to host their own. This seems like an awful lot of work. And I am not just talking about hosting the actual party. They take a lot of work.
You have to get going pretty early. You need to order your invitations. They need to be sent a couple of months before the baby shower. That means if you are going to celebrate in your last trimester they need to be sent out four months into your pregnancy. That is less than half the way through. There are plenty of baby shower invitations for girls, for boys to. In fact I think that finding invitations is the easiest part of the whole thing.
Preparing the rest of the items for the baby shower are what take a lot of time and effort. You need to get the decorations, the favors, and the food. You need to make a lot of preparations, and there is a lot to consider.
I am really thankful that all I had to do was sit there for a couple of hours.
And before you ask. They are a lot of fun even if you just need to sit there. I am not big on being the center of attention. I have never been the life of the party. The social butterfly? That was my sister. She was younger and was less responsible than I was if you ask my mother. The truth is that I had to help a lot. In fact the difference is like night and day. And that is fine, it takes all types to make the world go round.
She was the one that organized my baby shower if you were wondering.
But you could have guessed that much. I am still waiting on my chance to reciprocate. But she is more about here career than raising children. Like I said, it takes all types.
If you are going to be welcoming a child into your family sometime soon then you will have a lot of questions. I can’t claim to be the all knowing oracle, but I can offer a couple of different source of information. This page is for moms. And it has a collection of different information and sites that will give you a place to start looking.
These are things that I have either been directly asked. Or have seen asked before. The fact that I added them to the list doesn’t mean that they are pertinent to everyone that might read them. But they might be helpful to some of you, which is the whole reason that I included them in the first place.
Baby Shower Gifts
I think that there is a lot of potential when you get the chance to celebrate a baby shower. There are a lot of reasons to embrace the chance to get bottles and diapers. Depending on how established you are when you find out that you are going to have a baby you can make use of the chance to get gifts to help out. I think that a lot of people will just let the guests decide what they want to give. But nobody knows what you need like you do.
If you have the opportunity to setup a gift registry I would do it. They give you a chance to focus on what you need and the quantities that you need. It was one thing that really helped me. I wasn’t financially as strong as I would have liked to have been. That meant that everything helped and the registry was one of the things that I took the opportunity to setup. Since I am not that technically savvy I had to work on it a bit. But that has changed. Both on my end and on the part of the various registries. I recently helped a friend setup one for her wedding and I amazed how much easier it was now than it was then.
Showing the guests what you can use won’t be rude. In fact a lot of people are happy to know that their gift is useful, after all that is what the whole thing is about.
Shy Guest of Honor
If you are like me the idea of being the guest of honor at your baby shower isn’t something that you are comfortable with. And while the time might be uncomfortable, just remember that the people that are there are your friends, your family, and they are there for you.
This knowledge should help get you through the afternoon, and guess what, you will probably have a good time to boot.
While I was never somebody that shied away from the kitchen, once we started our family a lot of things changed. And it became important to have meals that appeased those that ate them but saved me a couple of minutes. My grandma was a wonder in the kitchen, but when I learned her secrets the whole process got a lot easier. And that is what I want to share with you.
I have been working on adding a number of my recipes to the site. These are meals that are quick. They taste great, and the cook time is either quick, in the case of my Stroganoff recipe or they are easy to prepare and are hands off afterwards.
Of course this isn’t going to make you a great cook. But it is a good place to start if you are just beginning.
One of the best pieces of advice I can give you is to be organized, don’t get discouraged when things don’t work at first, and keep trying. Cooking is an art, and when you raise a family it is a rewarding experience. Cooking for and with your children is a beautiful opportunity for you to bond. And this is something that out weighs any amount of kitchen chaos.
Here are some more simple recipes to help get you started.
Multiple Baby Showers
This is something that you need to decide for yourself. I knew before hand that you only get one baby shower, and when a friend offered to host another one for our second child I wasn’t comfortable with the idea so I declined. Of course the times have changed and I know people that have one every time they have a child. This really isn’t that big of a deal anymore, but you will need to know for yourself.